I’m listening to ‘One That I Love’ music in the dining room. Even though the house is so quiet as the kids have gone down to Mandurah for a few days, it’s an eerie thing but a good one of quietness. As I sit and reminisce on life at 65 and what it has to offer as I get older & wiser. Lol well that’s how I think. I know through many challenges, different turns I have taken. Is it wiser, or is it using the experiences I have endured in life? For whatever it is, we should use the years and life that we have gone through into the new ones ahead.
Being Single For 26 Years What It Has Meant For Me.
I’d say Independence has been the main one, as it has allowed me to completely control my life, and now have I controlled it the right way. It means have I pursued my goals, ambitions, desires, and many targets I have set. If I were to be honest: No: I have not. Is it through trying, or is it halfway through them and then going in another direction.
One question I ask is what most people love or would like to have and that’s Freedom: Which can mean a couple of things – financially free, making decisions, going whichever direction you want in life, is that a good thing it’s one I’ve had for 26 years and one I have had to learn to live with how to use it for the better of life.
Would I call myself flexible in what I do and what I can do, making the right decisions, and enjoying life on how I do it? Flexibility is a good one in many ways. Overall, it allows me to have greater autonomy and control over various aspects of my life. It enables me to make choices that align with my own values, interests, and aspirations without the need to coordinate or compromise with a partner. Is That a good thing – it can be – but there are times that a partner with some choices I make could make a difference in the change or the chance that I believe will make it better for me.
Changing The Image For A While.
On the social side of life, being single is one of the hardest if you sit back and wait for it to happen. You need to get out there among them to have a good social life. There are many ways to do so: community sports, bingo (depending on age, LOL), and surfing the internet for different outings too. Good friends and family are key more than anything when it comes to socializing, but then there comes a time when you need to do it on your own, which is a scary thing if you make it. I just thought, “Screw it,” as life is short and I need to get out and meet different people and do different things of interest to me.
Is There A Downside With Being Single?
Yes, there are a lot of good things in one way if you are single, and then comes the downside as well, which are a few, but ones that can bring great changes to your thoughts, outings, socializing, and just being the person you want.
The biggest one is loneliness, which is a major downside as it does come into life, especially when you have been for 26 years. Being single at any age is and has the potential for feelings of loneliness. As we grow older, maintaining social connections becomes increasingly important for our mental health, which plays a big part in being on your own for so long.
Not having a partner for so long is one that hurts more to just have that chat of a day, when special days arrive such as birthdays, Christmas, etc. So we make sure we have a good relationship with family and friends. I also have several friends with benefits who have become very good friends with benefits. The good side, which both parties like, is that we catch up over a meal and a very good dessert Lol, knowing we still go our own directions without hurting each other.
The financial side for me just means I needed to control & watch how I use my money as it’s only one income, the hard one is knowing in a few years how to keep my health insurance, car insurance and living expenses. Now this is another part of my life I need to learn how to do so, control my money for the better, be smarter with my money, and how many more years I keep working, this is when it’s hard being single with no one to chat to on the finer parts of life.
If I were to look at the downside of too many things, they could put me down. This could be a lack of support, which can be a small problem as I haven’t had that shoulder to lean on to confront different choices and changes that come up in life. The hardest one for me and has been for a few years is depression. It’s one I fight on my own and one I find very hard. If the correct answer to it is being lonely doesn’t help, and again that’s why you have to look at the best way to manage it and be strong or it can really hurt you, as I have learned over the years.
We’re Is This Heading.
I could say and will it has been an experience of many things being on my own for so long, one that has had many ups and downs, good times and the odd bad ones that come into life. I count myself lucky with the support of my kids and grandkids, family, and many great friendships I have built up over the years. I also understand that it could be for a while yet, so I have set goals and a bucket list in travelling overseas next year, being healthier, more positive with work and life in general, but more than anything, understanding the meaning of being single, being 65, being me, and what I want to do with being successful that comes with it. Is age a burden? No – only if we make it, as I understand this can happen at any age, so I look at the positives and make them good for me by being happy about my age and who I am and have become as a person.
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